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Best Dating site for over 40’s 22
Well . can’t believe I’m single . but my lovely fucking partner.. has determined he can do better.
So not ready yet but wondered if you wise people can tell me the best place to look.
I found match or Pof pretty good mainly because socially I met people as well as dating. I met a duo of guys who are just friends now. Off the dating scene for a bit but have been on OLD for the last Four years until recently. Eharmony is rubbish, not enough choice, tinder is a meat market
Hope you’re okay, op?
My mum is 67 and has been on slew of fish for a while now. She’s had two good beau’s from it but they didn’t work out for various reasons but shes still hopeful and has met some lovely people through it, many have just turned into platonic friendships.
Yeah absolutely notsure raises a good point I mean you have to truly qualify them in our or out pretty quick. Don’t over invest emotionally, budge to a phone call as quick as you can as speaking tells you way more about someone than messaging does. Make sure they are who they say they are ( google them etc) and don’t compromise on the big stuff
Oh I am 45 by the way
Absolutely, fairylea. I’m dating a lovely stud at the mo who I found on POF. Had it have been tinder, I’d have swiped left . At least with POF, you can build up (albeit) a flimsy idea of any potential dates.
I am in the same boat. I have just set up a free profile on Times Encounters. I am a bit apprehensive so, haven’t transferred over any money yet.
I must have had around 60 different dates, punctuated by longer term r’ships &, I think it’s only now, that I have realised there seems to be a certain pattern &, that you can tell a lot about someone by their writing style. Eg, putting more than two smooches after a message is a massive turn off for me. Especially in an introductory message
There’s a excellent dating thread in relationships..
Can I just say one of the best tips for internet dating is always make the very first date a daytime coffee. Not dinner. Then you can always escape quickly and lightly if they’re not your thing! And if they are. well dh and I met for a coffee and stayed until the coffee shop closed Four hours later!
It seems to be a accomplish minefield!! I am a recently divorced 45 year old single mum and haven’t been on a date for 24 years. I am just looking for a few nights out. If I make some fresh friends, excellent. If it leads to more brilliant but, I am not holding my breath!!
I’m 47 and joined match.com earlier this week after separation/divorce from 20 year marriage. Had lots of views and two chaps sent emails but both not in my ‘range’ ie over 6ft tall!! Have clicked favourite on several people but none have replied. Not sure how much longer I will give it as its making me feel very negative about myself.
Fairy Lea good peak and lovely story
I’m afraid I found them all hopeless and I know many friends who said the same. Interestingly, despite the statistics telling a large percentage of people now say they net their OH online, I know dozens of people who have used OLD but only two long term relationships. Most nothing more than a series of dates. I think it makes a meaty difference depending where you live
Thanks for the advice Fairylea! I live in a rural area so was hoping to meet people with common interests further afield. I have so far been messaged by a 60 year old bloke in Thailand and another from Costa sel Sol. It hasn’t embarked well!
Donna what site are you on? You also need to message people, just thought I would mention that as I found some guys I dated said they never would have messaged me (evidently I am intimidating )
Thanks Jeaux. I am on Times Encounters. I have only just set up my profile. I haven’t plucked up the courage to message yet! ??
I will be joining you in the OLD scene in January. I have had Two abusive past relationships that I am not fully recovered from so attempting to get myself back to being me before I put myself back on the market but I have promised myself I am going to get back in the dating scene after christmas.
My best practice was with Match, but you have to have a thick skin and I did get to the point of providing up, often thought of writing a book about my practices (you couldn’t have made them up!) – then I met my spouse and five years on am very blessed.
That is good to hear Chimpfield! Glad it works. I am not having much luck – unless I am after a man in his seventies!!
I met my ex on match.com. We were together for 9 years and are still friends so I’ve recently joined back up
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